I had a really interesting moment recently.
I met someone who decided we wouldn’t be a good match because we’re both neurodiverse and apparently that means we’d “row too much.” Which honestly made me laugh, because I haven’t had a proper row in decades.
I’ve only recently been diagnosed with ADHD and yes… it shows.
Messy hair.
Running late.
Turning up to see a client on the wrong day.
Missing a networking meeting because I mixed the dates up.
It can be chaotic. It can be frustrating for other people sometimes. I get that.
But arguments? Conflict? Drama? No. That’s never been me.
Anyone who’s been in my office and seen my desk knows exactly how my brain works. A bit wild, a bit everywhere, but also full of ideas, creativity and problem-solving. I joke that I’m basically a walking bee… slightly chaotic, always buzzing, but ridiculously productive when I lock in.
Neurodiverse doesn’t mean difficult.
Different doesn’t mean drama.
Your wiring doesn’t decide if you argue.
Your behaviour does.
How you communicate does.
How emotionally aware you are does.
And honestly… who isn’t neurodiverse to some extent? We’re all wired differently. That’s kind of the point.
Difference isn’t the problem.
Assumptions are.